We are a parish of many families and we aim to support those families in their married life from the first days of planning their wedding until they enter retirement together.
Congratulations on your engagement!
St. Mary’s offers excellent marriage preparation and beautiful weddings for our parishioners and their family members. We are blessed with a number of tremendous resources that allow us to offer these, including talented staff members, dedicated volunteers, and beautiful churches.
Catholics who desire to remain “in communion with” (that is, “in good standing with”) the Catholic Church must prepare for their wedding with a priest or deacon working in his official capacity as a representative of the Catholic Church.
St. Mary’s offers beautiful, traditional, Catholic weddings for our parishioners, their adult children and grandchildren. We are blessed with resources that allow us to offer these, including talented staff members, dedicated volunteers, and beautiful churches.
Though we are blessed in this regard, our resources are limited. As a consequence, St. Mary’s is not offered as a wedding venue for non-parishioners who have chosen Stillwater as the location for their wedding reception. We encourage non-parishioners to work with their own parishes to arrange their wedding.
Please complete and submit the Wedding Request Form below to begin the wedding request and marriage preparation processes. All requests for weddings are directed to our Parochial Vicar, Fr. Austin Barnes, who will contact you to schedule a meeting. At that first meeting, please bring the $100 non-refundable deposit to reserve the church for your ceremony. (The total cost of the wedding ceremony at St. Mary’s will come to approximately $900. See Frequently Asked Questions below for more details.)
Who Is Eligible to Celebrate the Sacrament of Marriage:
To be married in the Catholic Church either the bride or groom needs to be a Roman Catholic who practices his or her faith and both parties need to be free to marry within the Catholic Church. Freedom to marry will be established in the first meeting with the assigned clergy. No wedding dates are given until this is established, so please do not book your reception hall until after the priest has established this freedom.
For Those Who Are Married
Resources for Married Couples
Please know that the priest or deacon who assisted you with your marriage preparation is available for ongoing discussion on the Sacrament of Marriage and on any aspect of married life. Opportunities are available to help your marriage to continue to grow and develop. Marriage enrichment opportunities are periodically sponsored by parishes and the Archdiocese. Please consult the parish bulletin and bulletin boards for these opportunities or visit the Office of Marriage and Family Life.
One of Fr. Michael Izen’s roles as Pastor at St. Mary's
Issues of divorce, annulment, and marriage are complicated. Rather than sharing partial and imperfect information that may confuse someone facing these issues, the best thing you can do is get the person with questions about marriage, divorce, and annulment to talk directly to a priest or deacon. You might offer to accompany your family member or friend to the meeting with the priest or deacon if that would make it easier for your friend or family member.
At the St. Mary's Church, our Pastor, Fr. Michael Izen is responsible for helping individuals and couples with these issues. If anyone, parishioner or otherwise, ever has any question about these issues, they are invited to call at 379-1261 or email him directly and he will do what he can to help them.